9 tips to give handjob to a man

Giving a great handjob is as much about making a connection with your partner (whether it’s a long term relationship or an anonymous quickie) as it is about a specific technique. Handjobs shouldn’t feel like work, but at the same time the best handjob givers tend to have a certain amount of pride in their craft.

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1. Whatever you do, start slowly.
Because every guy is different, knowing the latest move isn’t always going to work. What’s more important is a handjob that brings enthusiasm and adventure…PLUS the ability to start slow and pay attention. As you touch him, pay attention to your pressure, the speed of the stroke and where you’re touching. At the same time, pay attention to what’s going on for him. Is he making happy noises? Is he moving his body? You can also solicit simple feedback during the handjob (“You like?” or “You want more?”), although too much talking or too many questions can get distracting.

2. Handjobs aren’t just about the penis.
It may be the lead actor in the drama, but supporting characters, like the testicles and scrotum, can steal the scene for some guys. These areas, along with the perineum, can be sensitive to touch and pressure, particularly once a many is aroused. You can tickle them, run your nails along them, tap them gently. You can also put your middle finger and forefinger around the top of the scrotum (making sure that you just have skin between your fingers, no actual balls) and then slowly and gently tug down, away from the body.

3. Wetter is better.
Because guys don’t lubricate enough to create any kind of noticeable wetness, adding external personal lubricant is an absolute must for a great handjob. If the lube is only for the handjob and you’re not planning on relying on condoms immediately afterward, oil-based lubricants really are the best as they don’t dry up and can actually add to the experience. Some products (like Stroke 29, Men’s Cream, and Boy Butter) are specially designed for this purpose, but in a pinch any water-based or even silicone-based lube will do.

4. The shape of the hand.
Depending on your range of motion, you can use your hands in all sorts of different ways for stimulation. Try these: Use both your hands, fingers extended and palms opened, to stroke the penis. Put your index finger and pinky finger a bit over your middle and ring finger, making your hand into a cup-like shape. Position your hand lengthwise on the penis and explore how it feels to use the heel of your hand for stimulation. The skin on your hand differs throughout, and you can use this difference to explore alternatives to the simple grip.

5. Using your fingers.
Your fingers can change the feeling of the stimulation and the pressure you apply. Instead of wrapping all your fingers evenly around the shaft of the penis, try using only the thumb and index finger. See what happens when you slowly add more fingers and more pressure. You can also use the tips of your fingers to tap gently along the shaft, on the scrotum and the perineum. Depending on his comfort and interest, you can use your nails (remember some spots can take a lot rougher stimulation than others). When using a lot of individual finger stimulation, be sure that your hands are well lubed.

6. Try different styles of strokes.
The standard up and down stroke can be effective, but it can also get boring and quickly lead to over-stimulation. Experiment with different kinds of strokes. Use a twisting motion while moving up and down, roll the penis between your palms, alternate short strokes at the base of the penis with short strokes at the tip. Start with short strokes and gradually make them longer. Instead of moving up and down, just stroke up and away from the body.

7. The squeeze.
Some guys really like a firm grip around their penis and will love a combination of stroking with gentle, but firm squeezing up and down the shaft. Usually it’s more like pumping your fist (as if milking a cow…sorry I know that’s not very sexy) than it is like a prolonged squeeze required to open the lid off a jar (again, not so sexy, but I’m at a loss for a better visual metaphor). As a general rule, most guys won’t like the feeling of squeezing directly of the testicles, although stimulating the area can be great. This bring us to our next point.

8. Pulling it all together.
It can be fun to experiment with the above ideas, and more on your own. But don’t worry about trying to do several things at once, or even during one handjob. Remember the goal of a handjob is to give pleasure to your partner and the benefit of this method is that you have a lot of room to tune into his pleasure. Some people find that kind of connection to be arousing, others like the feeling of control, some people love it because they know it’s going to come back to them. Whatever your reasons, a good handjob is, in the end, about making that connection and having fun.

9. Learn from a master.
One of the best ways to get a baseline handjob how to is to ask that your partner masturbate for you. If he is shy, you can suggest he wear a blindfold (it may sound kinky, but it really helps). Watch the kinds of strokes he uses, where he is stimulating himself the most, and the pacing he uses from beginning to end.